Feel: About Self-Harm

*Trigger Warning: this post may contain triggers surrounding self-injury.

In previous posts, I’ve mentioned that I’ve self-harmed in the past. And I admit, I’ve been a little hesitant to discuss it further. But self-harm is shrouded in secrecy. If we talk about it, it loses some of its power and others will know they’re not alone. Plus, it’s Mental Health Month (May every year), just in case you need extra motivation.

At the same time, don’t allow anyone to pressure you into doing something you’re not ready to do. Sometimes we have to solely focus on healing ourselves. But no matter how isolated you may feel at any given time, remember there are many others on the journey with you. Treatment plans and details may vary, but we’re having a common experience. And we get one another.

I will likely have my battle scars for life. And I’m finally okay with that. I’ve come to accept & even appreciate them, as they represent difficult times in which I’ve made it through.

There was a time when I worried about what others would think. I was extremely self-conscious. But I’ve mindfully shifted my perspective. I also try to stay diligent in my mental health care. Now I’m free to just be me. If others judge, that’s their problem not mine.

– – – – – – – – – – WHY?


I wish I could give you a simple answer, but I can’t. In the moment, I felt as though I was literally going to explode & I suppose I didn’t know how to channel that. I would sometimes try healthy coping strategies first, but still somehow end-up cutting.

I believe I’ve self-harmed for two reasons: to feel & to not feel {so intensely}. Sometimes what I think I was trying to feel was ‘in control,’ other times I was just trying to feel something.

↓ COPE ↓

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  • Tell yourself that you will wait 15 mins. Try some healthy coping strategies during this time. Set a timer if it makes you feel better.
  • Exercise – this is my personal favorite & its been the most effective for me.
  • Call a friend, talk to someone about anything.
  • Journal
  • Listen  to music {w/no triggers} & dance vigorously.
  • Rub an ice-cube against the back of your arm or leg for a few seconds.
  • Rip-up a bunch of papers.
  • Take a cold shower or a warm bath; whichever sounds the best.
  • Go Online for Support; websites, forums, or chat rooms. For more tips, visit the websites below…


You’re NOT alone!

What’s your most effective tip for beating self-harm urges?




  1. Thank you for being so brave to share this, stories of people overcoming their mental health issues are so empowering for those looking for help. I know when I was in my darkest throws of depression reading how other people had recovered and stayed well helped me see it was possible. I have never been a self harmer but imagine similar helps.

    Thank you for linking up with our mental health linky, it is so important to share as many stories as possible so that more help can be found for those who need it.
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    1. I agree. The more we share, the more potential of helping someone. Thank you so much for hosting the link-up. I’ve gotten a lot out of it personally. So many inspirational stories have been shared. It’s great! I haven’t even made my way through all of them yet, but I will.

      Have a great weekend!

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