Homeschooling: I Said Never But Anxiety Said Now!

<center>Homeschooling: I Said Never But Anxiety Said Now!</center>

If someone had ever said to me, “homeschooling will eventually weave its way through the daily lives of your family,” I’d have laughed in their face – & hard! But that’s exactly what’s begun to take place in our home.

My aversion to homeschooling was never because I thought it was wrong in any way. On the contrary. I always thought, “you homeschoolers are some mighty brave souls.” It seemed completely overwhelming & thus, like something I would never even attempt taking on.

But When. . .

But when your daughter hasn’t been herself lately, you worry. When as the school year draws nearer she begins to randomly tear up, you worry. After repeated gentle nudges, eventually you MAKE her talk to you. And when she acutely expresses a social anxiety that is so oppressive in nature that it crushes your heart? You tell her not to worry & promise her that you’ll figure it out – And then you follow through.

 

- SKY -

1st DAY OF HOME SCHOOL

1st Day of Home School!

Amongst a whole bunch of other awesomeness, Sky is one of the bravest & strongest people I know – period, & she’s only thirteen. Because of that, she gave me permission to share all of this with you. 

Like myself, Sky has often been labeled “shy.” But social anxiety, or social phobia, goes beyond simply being shy. It involves an intense fear of certain social situations, especially those unfamiliar. Just thinking about them can produce anxiety, as we saw leading up to the beginning of the school year.

In Skyla’s Own Words

On the school bus I feel like I can’t breathe. I feel like everyone’s looking at me. I know they’re not. I try to tell myself that they’re not, but it doesn’t help. I feel like that in class too. . .

 

Social phobia is the fear of being judged or embarrassed in public. It’s the worry that others will think badly of you. And though you most likely know these fears are irrational, you can’t help but to feel anxious.

Social Anxiety

But Why Home School?

You could see the relief wash over her when the decision to home school was made. Heck, you could feel the tension being released. If we pushed her into public school, I honestly believe that the intensity of her anxiety would hinder her learning & ability to perform even close to her abilities. Additionally, I believe it would keep her from any productive socializing.

Middle school is hard enough. Why force her to battle through this debilitating anxiety & expect her to perform well on top of it when there are options available? Plus, this opens her up to do solid work in therapy.

While this is an indefinite venture, ideally she’d go back to public school next year; freshman year. But you never know!

I’ll definitely ask her therapist for guidance. When do I push her & when do I make the appropriate allowances? What are the appropriate allowances?! No one ever said parenting was easy!

However, our first day of home school was fantastic!

We’re all excited about this new journey we’re going on. I’m looking forward to the time I get to spend with her. I’m so grateful that these options are available to us. And OH, there are SO MANY OPTIONS. We’re going to learn a lot as we go, which typically is not my thing. I like to have things all mapped out. But I really just want to enjoy this & take full advantage of this time with her.

How did you get started on your homeschooling journey? How was your first day?


 Krista-Lee-Pfeiffer :: Blogger & Creator of TheSunnyShadow.com


8 comments on “
Homeschooling: I Said Never But Anxiety Said Now!
  1. Ashley says:

    Each child have their own capabilities and needs, and homeschooling can be done by understanding each individual needs. Great points and experiences you have shared in the blog. Awesome blog and amazing infographics about social anxiety.
    Ashley recently posted…Online Education – The New Way to LearnMy Profile

    • Thanks Ashley. I agree, I’ve definitely had to take into consideration my daughter’s unique needs. She’s completely different than her sister. So if I were to homeschool her sister, I’d have to approach it from a totally different angle. Thanks again for your kind words.

      Hope you’re having a great week!
      -Krista

  2. Heather Keet says:

    I love this. There is no one solution for children. Each child is unique and should be handled as their own person. As a daycare provider for the past 12 years, I always tell my parents to never say never. Sometimes you need to do things you would never imagine doing, all in the best interests of your child. I’m so glad you chose homeschool. A friend of mine had crippling social phobia and she was forced to go to school. It was awful. Once she became suicidal at age 8 (8!) her parents began homeschooling. Best thing they ever did. And we still played together every day after school and are friends to this day. I don’t know what would have happened if her parents had not recognized that traditional schooling was not working.
    Heather Keet recently posted…BLOG PARTY DAY…My Profile

    • Thank you for sharing that with me Heather. That makes me feel even more confident in my decision. So glad your friend’s parents listened to themselves as well! Thanks for hosting the Blog Party! I’m enjoying hopping around =-)

      Thanks for stopping by!
      -Krista

  3. Ruth says:

    I enjoyed reading your story, and just want to say, ‘Good for you – both of you!’ I’m sure it wasn’t an easy decision, but I think you’ll find home schooling rewarding in many ways. Looking forward to reading more!
    Ruth recently posted…Taking a year of my retirement now.My Profile

    • Thank you Ruth. I think we’re going to enjoy it too. We’re still working out the kinks {& may be for a while}, but I’m so happy with this decision.
      Thanks for stopping by & for your kind words! -Krista

  4. Michelle says:

    I’m very impressed with both of you! I’m impressed with skyla recognizing & discussing her feelings, & I’m impressed with you being such a great mom. Trying to figure out the “right” answer is one of the most difficult parts of parenting, in my opinion. She’s a lucky girl to have such a great mom in her corner! Overcoming obstacles is so much easier when you have someone on your side helping!

    • Awe, thanks Michelle! I’m really impressed by her too… the way in which she’s able to articulate what she’s experiencing blows me away, for a thirteen year old. I’m obviously biased but I think she’s a pretty amazing little creature 😉

      It’s all smiles now, but it’s only the 2nd day! Lol. Just wait until we really dig our heels into it. The adventure awaits!

      Thank you for taking the time to comment & for all of your kind words =-) Love you!
      -Krista

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge