Self-Improvement :: 2015

Happy New Year

Hope everyone had a fabulous holiday, surrounded by love! I certainly did. Our daughters had a great Christmas. NYE was spent at home with family; I finally got my husband to watch House of Cards♡. Despite a relentless migraine, it was absolute perfection. I know, – Whoo Hoo! P A R T Y! – but… If you know me, you know that I’ve done more than enough partying for my lifetime {& yours}. So at this point, staying home on NYE is extremely refreshing. Alrighty then, now that we have all that “partying” out of our systems, let’s talk about resolutions…

By definition a resolution is a solution, accommodation, or settling of a problem, controversy, etc. So in keeping with one of my previous posts, Finding Balance Again, I realize that I cannot simply set resolutions {like in the past} & expect everything to magically fall into place. If I’m serious about the resolutions in which I’m setting, I have to come up with a game plan… a follow-through; I have to figure out how I’m going to make the changes I want to make. That entails truly getting HONEST with myself about what gets in my way of following through with these changes. Many of us have attempted our resolutions more than once; what went wrong & where… honestly?? We know ourselves better than anyone else, right? What works for you might not work for me & vice versa, it’s up to each of us to figure out how we can successfully reach our goals, whatever they may be.

In 2015, I intend to become a better version of myself. I guess you could call it a “resolution” because I plan to work hard at it, but I just think of it as plain ‘ol self-improvement.

One thing I’ve learned from AA & therapy is that self-improvement is a lifetime journey that requires constant self-evaluation.

◊ HOW ◊


The intentional, accepting & non-judgmental focus of one’s attention on the emotions, thoughts & sensations occurring in the present moment.

I will start with getting back to my morning routine of daily meditation readings & making a gratitude list, all before interacting with another human being. This helps me start the day in a good frame of mind, from a place of gratitude & humility. From there I will have to constantly refocus my attention, for example, when my mind begins to run wild with the to-do list.


“The most basic & powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention.”  ~Rachel Naomi Remen

Often, I have so many things on my mind that I don’t take the time to give my full attention to the person that’s directly in front of me, & often times that person is one of the most important people in my life! I’m also guilty of trying to formulate my response while someone is speaking, rather than fully concentrating on what they are saying. 2015 is when this changes!


Deep awareness of the suffering of another accompanied by the wish to relieve it.

Considering that I’m a Wife, Mother, & Caregiver, it’s pretty important that I be compassionate. Honestly though, there’s room for growth in this area. There’s one person in my life that makes this terribly difficult, even though I know that I’m in control of my actions/reactions {& that’s just about all I have control over}. I feel that if I can consistently show compassion toward this person, then I have mastered compassion in & of itself; I can then be compassionate towards anyone. I know it’s silly, but it’s my life.

There will be a lot of deep breathing involved =-/

There are several more areas of my life that I intend to improve upon in 2015 {e.g. organization, health, toxic guilt} but the above are things that I feel have the most substance. They will also provide a good foundation for more growth. Hopefully by 2016 I will be a more mindful, compassionate, listener. What about you?!


Krista-Lee-Pfeiffer :: Blogger & Creator of The Sunny Shadow


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