The Secret to Sustained Sobriety

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The Secret to Sustained Sobriety
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There are many paths to sobriety. I share my personal experiences and what worked for me. But I am in no way implying that A.A. is the only way, or even the “right” way. Please do here what I do with A.A., take what you need and leave the rest.


I don’t miss alcohol. . . 99.9% of the time.

99.9% of the time alcohol doesn’t so much as enter my mind; even when I’m surrounded by it. Whether it be at a family gathering or at a rock festival, I don’t notice it. It’s almost as if I’ve become immune to it. Almost.

Typically when I do notice, it’s not the actual alcohol I’m noticing. It’s the people who are acting foolishly as a result of drinking alcohol. But I don’t judge them. Good grief! I have no place to judge anyone, alcohol-related or not! Though it does make me grateful for my sobriety.

However, there’s that .1% of the time. . .

.1% of the time I fight a battle with my alcoholic brain that no one knows about. A dinner out with my family can quickly become mentally exhausting. . .

“A glass of wine would be tasty with this meal.” And I then begin to taste the hypothetical red wine on my tongue. I smell the aromas & can feel my body warm with every sip I {don’t} take.

Usually I’m able to snap out of it before the imaginary wine touches my lips. But sometimes my alcoholic brain takes me further. It tries to convince me that just one glass would be okay. And it halfway has me believing that I may be able to convince my husband of this fact too. Once I reach this point I know for sure, I’ve crossed the line.

But first I throw myself a quick pity party, “Why do I have to ruin everything? Why couldn’t I have just drank like a normal person?” -Apparently forgetting the nature of addiction.

It’s as if a spell is cast – POOF! “You’re under the control of alcoholism & have now entered into addictive thinking.”

But thankfully, with much work, I’ve learned how to not listen to my alcoholic brain. It can talk all it wants to, I choose not to listen.

The Secret to Sustained Sobriety

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I’ve found that the longer I’m sober, the more resistant I feel to alcoholism & its “trickeries.” I’m better able to fend off these rare cravings. I’m less bothered by others who drink as well. Though I realize I’m never immune. The longer I’m sober the more secure I feel in my sobriety. And I’m not alone.

A Psychology Today article referencing “an eight-year study of 1200 addicts” found that “extended abstinence is predictive of sustained recovery.” The study found that of the individuals who made it to a year of sobriety, less than half relapsed. And of the individuals who made it to five years of sobriety, less than 15% relapsed!

I view this as encouraging. It gives us hope in difficult times. When we’re struggling we can tell ourselves it’s not for nothing. If we continue putting one foot in front of the other & doing what we’re supposed to, we will be rewarded.

We can take comfort in knowing that it does get easier.

This does not mean that once we reach the five-year mark we can rest on our laurels. Our recovery practices may change & evolve over time, but we must continue to practice recovery. A.A. instills awesome life skills. So much so that many of the principles simply become a way of life.

But what about the newly sober person?

Five years sound like an eternity. Tomorrow sounds like forever! Keep going back to A.A. meetings. Do what your sponsor tells you to do, even when it’s uncomfortable. Especially when it’s uncomfortable. {Using common sense, of course} Take it one day at a time, one minute at a time when you have to. Pick up the damn phone! Keep doing the next right thing & eventually the days will accumulate without you even noticing.

What are your tips for sustained sobriety? Leave a comment!


Krista-Lee-Pfeiffer :: Blogger & Creator of The Sunny Shadow

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2 comments on “
The Secret to Sustained Sobriety
  1. These are great tips Krista. Just discovered the blog via Twitter and looking forward to reading more.

    Thanks,
    Laura Beth
    Laura Beth Cowan recently posted…10 Ways to Show Kindness to OthersMy Profile

    • Awesome! Welcome. And thank you =-) Hope you find more useful information here. I love feedback, so feel free to shoot me an e-mail with suggestions or questions at any time! I took a quick peek at your blog. I can definitely use money management tips! I’m looking forward to taking the time to read some of your posts as well!

      Thanks for stopping by & taking the time to say “hi.” Take care!
      -Krista

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